What to Do if My Partner is Not Giving Me the Support I Need for My Career to Thrive

Show Notes:

This is a sensitive topic, but not talked about openly enough. We hear people brag about their amazing partners, but what is really happening behind the scenes?

So tell us Jasleen! How do we get the unwavering support we need!?

Ok, just hang on a second… before you even approach your partner about this you need to be aware of what is going on behind the scenes (i.e in their own brains). Unless you are extremely lucky, most partners won’t be super self-aware and even if they are, might not be able to effectively communicate (i.e. without starting major drama).

So knowing that we all have triggers, I’ll invite you to try and accept that, for what it’s worth. Come from a place of understanding, but also making your feelings known. So, here they are, the triggers your partner might be experiencing:

The Triggers we Unknowingly Set off:

1. Is your partner dissatisfied with their own life or career?

2. Fear of change — your partner has an innate desire to keep things “safe”

3. Internal conflict — is their misalignment between what you are pursuing and their values?

4. They love you! The people who love you most are not only biased but hard-wired to protect you. It’s important to understand (not judge), how are they biased?

5. Are they uncomfortable with risk? Does your career or business pose personal or financial risk to your partner as well?

6. Limiting beliefs — what beliefs are standing in the way of their support?

*Watch the full video for exactly what to do about these triggers — because if you approach it in the wrong way — it could backfire!

My Tips for Approaching an Unsupportive Partner (Summarized*)

*For specific examples and a comprehensive approach for each tip, scroll down to watch the full episode of Passion on Purpose.

1. Understand your own power — believe in yourself first

2. Stop comparing your partner to others

3. Recognize the lack of support has less to do with you & reflects more on them

4. Use the feedback you get from your partner as fuel for success instead of proof of failure

5. Expand your support system

6. Acknowledge the (real) risk and provide solutions and ways that you will mitigate the risk

Watch the full episode of Passion on Purpose:

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